Couples Therapy
Feeling disconnected or in conflict with our partner can take the joy out of our homes and our lives, and fill us with sadness, rage, and hopelessness. Oftentimes despite our best efforts to pursue resolution or to protect the peace, we find ourselves in a painful, repetitive, and yet familiar pattern in our relationship. My guess is that most of us have tried to think our way out of these spots, yet if it were that easy than none of us would struggle.
My belief is that whatever healing means to you, it is achieved through the power of the relationship. I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, which can support you and your partner to join together against this destructive or disconnected pattern, and to develop, foster, and strengthen the connection between you. Then suddenly, when feeling loved by and love for our partner, all of those efforts that seemed unsustainable suddenly happen naturally and without thought out of love and admiration. From this restored connection comes a new sense of hope, joy, and peace within ourselves, our partner, and our relationship.
I invite you to learn more about restoring connection with Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy or login to set up a time to meet.
Ghandi was onto something when he said, “Where there is love, there is life.” On the flip side, conflict or disconnection with our partner can take the joy out of our home and our life. It can fill us with sadness, rage, loneliness, or hopelessness — especially when we feel so distant, are healing after betrayal, or keep having the same argument over and over again.
Oftentimes despite our best efforts to pursue resolution or protect the peace, we find ourselves in a painful, repetitive, familiar patterns. Most of us have tried to talk or think or avoid our way out of these spots. But if it were that easy, none of us would struggle.
Couples therapy is a way to have the same “here we go again” moment — but in a way that goes differently.
Not just calmer. Not just more polite, but in time, open and honest in a way that heals the hurt, fosters understanding, and finally puts an end to these “here we go again” moments.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, an evidence-based approach grounded in attachment science. EFT helps couples understand the emotional cycle beneath conflict — the triggers, the protest, the shutdown, the pursuit, the fear — and rebuild emotional safety so connection becomes possible again.
EFT helps us:
Identify the negative cycle (the pattern, not the person, is the enemy)
Access what’s really happening underneath the conflict
Express emotions and needs in ways your partner can actually hear
Repair relationship hurts and rebuild trust
Strengthen secure bond and connection
When partners feel loved and safe again, the things that once felt unsustainable become more natural. Effort doesn’t come from fear or obligation — it comes from connection.